“In generations past, there was far less talk about ‘compatibility’ and finding the ideal soul-mate,” widely respected preacher Timothy Keller recently wrote in Relevant Magazine. “Today we are looking for someone who accepts us as we are and fulfills our desires, and this creates an unrealistic set of expectations that frustrates both the searches and the searched for.”

Fifty-five percent of Christian singles still believe in love at first sight, according to a recent Valentine’s Day poll conducted by ChristianMingle.com, one of the largest faith-based online dating sites.

Asking singles several questions related to love and the upcoming holiday on Feb. 14, the organization found a few surprising results, including the fact that men have more romantic tendencies than women.

Compared to 53 percent of females, 58 percent of male participants said that they believe in love at first sight.

“These results are contrary to what we expected,” Ashley Reccord, owner an d operator of the growing site expressed. “While the stereotype is that women are more romantic at heart, our poll suggests men may trump women in believing in romance, even if they don’t always show it outwardly.”

Though the idea behind love at first sight is enchanting and romantic, is it setting up unrealistic expectations for singles or perpetuating somewhat of a dangerous mentality for Christians?

“While attraction is an important part of dating and a great first impression can certainly jump-start a relationship, one of the major benefits of a community like ChristianMingle, is the ability to pace the relationship and get to know a potential date on a meaningful level before meeting in person,” Reccord told The Christian Post in an email.

“ChristianMingle members can get to know one another through on-site communication features such as Email, IM and Message Boards, and even take advantage of the various tools ChristianMingle has available such as the Relationship Readiness Test, Compatibility Matching Profile Assessment (COMPASS) and Color Code personality test, which help members to better understand compatibility and be ready for building a Christ-centered relationship.”

By setting up these means of communication first, Christians are more likely to approach each potential relationship in a deeper and less superficial manner.

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