God’s Word not only warns us about becoming bitter, but it also gives us clear instructions on how to respond to others who are bitter and perpetually contentions persons: “Reject a divisive man after the first and second admonition, knowing that such a person is warped and sinning, being self-condemned” (Titus 3:10-11).

There are several subjects in the Bible that need to be revisited on a somewhat regular basis. The subject of “bitterness” is one of those subjects. I know that I need to hear this often, as bitterness threatens me. It’s related to the subject of “forgiveness,” but it has its own unique characteristics. Perhaps you’ve heard some of this before, but, if you’re like me, you need to hear it again and again.

Bitterness is one of the most insidious sins. It is sneaky; it lurks in the background. It can defile individuals, families, churches, and cultures. Unlike momentary sins, bitterness is a lingering sin; it does its damage a little at a time. It’s relentless in its corroding work. If it’s not dealt with, it grows over time, and so, it must not be nurtured at all. Bitterness does even more damage to the container that holds this corrosive sin than it does to the objects upon which it is poured (though it usually hurts others as well). To conquer the sin of bitterness is to ensure, not only your happiness and peace, but also to spare many others misery as well.

Jostling the cup doesn’t change the contents of the cup, but the jostling frequently reveals the contents of the cup. For example, the Internet has given a megaphone to the contentious who are easily outraged and offended by the slightest nudge. Alone in their cloister with a keyboard (which has replaced the old-fashioned fisted crayon), the curmudgeon lashes out in indignation and judgment while bristling over the slightest challenge to his own motives or character. He is gifted at reading between the lines―a seer of hearts―a bearer of grudges. His self-imposed exile has left him alone and angry―quick to react―slow to forgive. Proverbs 11:9 warns that “the hypocrite with his mouth destroys his neighbor,” and verse 12 tells us why: “He who is devoid of wisdom despises his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his peace.” Rage is a powerful weakness (Pr. 15:18; 16:29. 32). Such cranky spirits are the product of a bitter soul.

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