The cultural pendulum is swinging right and the pro-child, anti-surrogacy movement is growing. The effect is the refutation of the facade that surrogacy is just a woman trying to help her post-cancer sister have a child. Ordinary people are starting to see that when it comes to gay surrogacy especially, “love” doesn’t make a family. We are watching a vibe shift in real time.

In recent weeks, Saturday Night Live aired a “New Parents” skit of a gay couple introducing their newborn to friends. But when those friends ask normal questions like, “Where did you get this baby?” they’re instantly scolded. “Wow … you sound like a Republican.” “Why are you obsessed with the mom?”

This is a massive departure from how mainstream media has approached gay families over the past couple decades, portraying them as overwhelmingly positive, even idealized, in sitcoms, dramas, and movies. Shows like Modern Family cast Mitch and Cam as the lovable, quirky duo raising their adopted daughter in a home full of warmth and humor. She, of course, was more grounded and better adjusted than many children from the heterosexual couples in the show. In Glee, The New Normal, and films like Love, Simon, gay relationships were presented not only as normal but as emotionally superior—more sensitive, stylish, and intentional than their heterosexual counterparts.

So SNL is charting new waters. They dipped a toe into criticizing gay couples last year, but not this directly. In 2024 they debuted a skit called “We’re Trying” where a gay couple shares that they’re “trying” to have a baby “the old-fashioned way.” Confused, and asking for clarification, the heterosexual friends’ questioning is met with the same level of deflection and defensiveness on display in “New Parents.”

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