The normalization of non-monogamy doesn’t just impact those who practice it. It reshapes culture itself. And not for the better. When commitment is devalued, relationships become transactional. Sex ceases to be an expression of love and instead becomes another consumer good—swiped, scheduled, and discarded.

There’s a reason stable civilizations have upheld monogamy for centuries. It wasn’t an accident or an oppressive religious dictate meant to restrict human freedom. It was a recognition that commitment, stability, and restraint are the foundation of functional societies. What, one might ask, is the alternative? Chaos, I argue—a return to the primal state, where short-term pleasure overshadows long-term responsibility.

Yet here we are, assured by peer-reviewed journals that non-monogamy is just as valid, if not superior, to traditional commitment. And as these noxious narratives take hold, so too does the practice itself.

As I write this, non-monogamous relationships are on the rise nationwide. Disturbingly, recent reports show that nearly one in five Americans has engaged in some form of consensual non-monogamy. In other words, what was once seen as fringe, even deviant, is now being sold as modern, enlightened, and entirely respectable.

A new meta-analysis by academics at the Australian Catholic University reassures us that polyamorous and “monogamish” relationships report comparable, and sometimes higher, levels of satisfaction. The “monogamy-superiority myth,” which refers to the long-standing belief that monogamous relationships offer the highest levels of fulfillment, stability, and trust, has been debunked. Or so we’re told.

Advocates for non-monogamy insist that lifelong commitment isn’t natural or necessary.

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