By God’s grace, we can adorn the gospel and so win people to it. People may not ask the questions we want them to ask: Who is Jesus? How can I overcome the problem of guilt?” But they do ask legitimate questions: Who am I? Does life have meaning? How can I find the joy, strength, fulfillment, and virtue I long for?[3] Because of our union with Christ and the transforming grace of the Holy Spirit, believers can make moral progress. We can strive, without an ironic wink, for a beautiful life.

It is a struggle to live out our faith. But we can see that in ways that owe more to secular trends than to Scripture and obscure the teaching that our lives can show the beauty of life in Christ and his gospel.

There is a tendency in Christian circles today to emphasize struggle, brokenness, woundedness, and failure. This is commendable in certain ways. It corrects the baleful effects of the prosperity gospel and soft perfectionism. A false accent on the victories of believers presents an impossible ideal. It tends to silence people who fear that their struggles represent shameful aberrations, so that they decide they cannot seek help. Beyond that, Scripture encourages realism. With dozens of psalms of lament and confession and candid accounts of the woes endured by heroes of the faith, from Abraham to Jesus to Paul, we have ample reasons to affirm that discipleship is arduous.

Nonetheless, a constant emphasis on struggle and brokenness misrepresents biblical theology. We ought to grow in faith, as Abraham did (Rom. 4: 20, 2 Thess. 1:3). We should lay aside the sin that entangles us (Heb. 12:1), “cast off the works of darkness” (Rom. 13:11) and “put off the old self” with its “deceitful desires” (Eph. 4:22-23). To be direct, believers can and should grow morally and spiritually. We should aspire to grow toward maturity and it is not prideful to recognize that we make progress, nor is it wrong for us to say so – for example, “A year ago, I would have lost my temper instead of walking away.”

In recent years, however, it seems increasingly difficult to say, “I am making progress” or even “I’m living in a pleasant place” (Ps. 16:6). We live in a culture of complaint. When we honor victims and scorn the privileged, people will not publicly say they have a great family, or enjoyed an excellent education, or have marketable skills and emotional resources that let them live without anxiety. No, people trumpet their suffering and compete to see who can claim more pain or betrayal. This has gained the force of habit, but we also know that those who suffer receive the stamp of authenticity and therefore gain the right to be heard.

It is necessary to question all this and many have started to do so. In 2018, actress Ali Wentworth wrote an article asking “When Did a Happy Marriage Become So Taboo?”[1] She starts with a faux confession: “I have a dirty little secret… I’m happily married. It might be my most boring attribute, and there’s nothing I can do about it! I love my husband and he loves me.” Unfortunately, this makes her a social misfit at “girly soirees.” When the talk “turns to marital affairs… I feel anxiety course through me” since she feels that she doesn’t belong. One music critic proposed 1991 as the year musical discourse changed. That was the year of grunge rock, led by Eddie Vedder and Kurt Cobain, and “anti-happy” songs about abuse, violence, drugs, war and depression suddenly prevailed.[2]

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