Notice what pro-gay theology advocates have done. They’ve invented a new type of sin. They’ve taken an existing sin (homosexual sex) and divided it up into two flavors: sinful homosexual sex and non-sinful homosexual sex—a distinction foreign to the corpus of Scripture. It’s no longer homosexual sex that’s sin. It’s abusive homosexual sex that’s sin. The added adjective is a qualifier that creates a new sin. Now, people can allegedly sidestep the biblical prohibition against homosexual sex.
Imagine you heard someone say this: It’s true the Bible condemns adultery, but only “sexual adultery.” That’s when you cheat on your spouse out of a raw, carnal desire for another person. Seeking out extramarital sex for novel stimulation is obviously sin. That’s why it’s condemned in Scripture. “Spiritual adultery” is different. Sometimes, after being married for a while, you realize there is a fundamental incompatibility between you and the person you’re married to. Your spouse is just not the person God meant for you. Instead, you’ve met someone else whom you recognize as your soul mate. Having sex with such a person would not be adulterous because it’s not merely a sexual deed but more akin to forming a one-flesh union out of love. It’s a spiritual act and, hence, not sin.
If what I’ve written so far sounds crazy and wrong, I’ve got good news for you. You probably accept the biblical sexual ethic that the church has embraced for two millennia: adultery is sin. It’s obvious there is no such thing as spiritual adultery that’s different from the kind of adultery we’ve always known the Bible to condemn. That’s an arbitrary and unbiblical distinction. Furthermore, if you think such a distinction is pure fabrication, then you should also reject modern expressions of pro-gay theology because they take a similarly misguided approach.
Homosexual sex is sin, say pro-gay theology advocates. Yes, the Bible does condemn homosexuality, but only abusive, coercive, or exploitive forms. For example, the Bible condemns homosexual gang rape (e.g., Sodom and Gomorrah), master-slave sodomy, and pederasty (men who have sex with boys). These are obviously sinful acts involving abusive forms of homosexual sex.
But there’s a “different” kind of homosexual sex, they say. It’s not abusive, exploitive, or coercive. Rather, it’s the kind of homosexuality that’s expressed within loving, consensual relationships between gay men or lesbian women. Since the vast majority of modern-day same-sex relationships are characterized by mutual love, consent, and non-exploitive behavior, the biblical prohibitions don’t apply to these modern expressions of love.