You cannot split your heart and expect your home to stay whole. So yes, let me be clear: I do not think men and women can be friends. And I absolutely do not think married men should cultivate friendships with women, or married women with men. Not only is it dangerous. It is stupid and naïve.

57% of men admit to committing infidelity at some point in their lives

54% of women admit to committing infidelity in one or more of their relationships

22% of married men admit to having an affair at least once during their marriages

14% of married women admit to having an affair at least once during their marriages**

WARNING: Over the next few days, the article below will be read by tens of thousands of men. And I know—I know—that one of those men is you. You’re reading this right now, and you’re either about to cross a line… or you already have.

The woman in your office. The woman at church. Miss Lululemon at the gym.

You told yourself it was harmless. You initiated the conversation. You struck up a “friendship.” But now your eyes linger too long. Your mind is filling with unclean thoughts. And your heart, whether you admit it or not, is beginning to drift.

Brother, hear me: she is not your friend. She is not your emotional support. She is not your safe place. She is, at the very least, God’s daughter, and at her best, your sister in Christ.

Stop. Turn around. RUN.

Run before she becomes the woman you never meant to fall for. Run before she becomes an illicit love you can’t untangle yourself from. Run before this “friendship” becomes the affair that destroys your home, your integrity, and your witness.

Brother, flee now. Not later. NOW.

I recently upset the internet. Okay… maybe not the whole internet. But enough of it to make my wife laugh and my team double-check my notifications. I said something that, apparently, is culturally offensive in 2025. What was it?

I stated that opposite-sex friendships are dangerous and unwise. That men and women can’t, and shouldn’t, be friends.

Immediately, the trolls started troll’n. Comment sections lit up. People I’ve never met suddenly became experts on my motives, my marriage, and my theology. But here’s the thing: I didn’t say it to be provocative. I didn’t say it to “go viral.”

I said it because it’s biblical. It’s pastoral. And it’s true. So, for the sake of clarity, not soundbites, here’s the fuller explanation and why I stand by what I said…

A Biblical Case for Boundaries, Purity, and Protecting What’s Sacred

Our culture insists men and women can be “just friends.” That emotional closeness is harmless. That intimacy can be divorced from attraction. That boundaries are optional [and silly]. But Scripture is far more honest than modern sentimentality. The Bible knows the human heart better than the human heart knows itself.

This isn’t fear. This isn’t legalism. This is wisdom…

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