We see marriage determined by our opinions on gender and sexuality, marriage for convenience, divorce because we’re bored, and websites that have profited from selling affairs to married people. So much of our world’s approach to marriage is concerned with how it affects “me,” “my truth,” and “my desires.”

Just recently, my local church hosted a one-night marriage summit. Anyone from the community was welcomed to attend. The idea was to spend a Friday date night with our spouses to invest in our marriages by hearing from a wide range of other couples, all from a Christian worldview.

The church provided child care, and a lovely Italian meal before a panel discussion delved into topics of money, communication, and parenting–all universal benefits and challenges within marriage.

My husband, Eric, and I were invited to join the panel to lay the Biblical foundations of marriage. Not as experts, by no means. We are approaching two and a half years of marriage. There is much for us to learn. But as we studied in preparation for this marriage event, there were insights we both discovered that I’d like to share here.

Man indeed has defined marriage according to our own terms. Which is why we see marriage determined by our opinions on gender and sexuality, marriage for convenience, divorce because we’re bored, and websites that have profited from selling affairs to married people. So much of our world’s approach to marriage is concerned with how it affects “me,” “my truth,” and “my desires.”

The result of a fallen authority on marriage is a lot of broken trust and pain. Broken adults. Broken homes. Broken children. And the cycle begins again.

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