Love is indeed inconvenient—and often quite costly. But with each faltering and imperfect act of neighborly love we undertake, we follow in the footsteps of Jesus whose very presence animates and undergirds our steps.

Love is inconvenient. It actually has the audacity to ask us to drop what we’re doing in order to attend to the needs of another. It presses up against our desires for autonomy, comfort, ease, safety, and control. It punctures our bubble of self-importance and self-protection. It lifts our heads to look up and outward at our neighbor, instead of down and inward at ourselves. It prods us toward a “you before me” ethos and away from our fleshly default of “me before you.” It beckons us to see and live through another’s eyes. So Jesus, knowing our hearts, turned our self-interest on its head when he said, “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them…” (Matt 7:12).

The truth is we don’t even want to be inconvenienced by these startling words from our Lord. It’s difficult to live in the way of love. It is costly and inconvenient, to say the least.

• It’s inconvenient to pause the task you’re in the midst of and listen to your 5-year-old tell of her backyard discovery.
• It’s inconvenient to help with the dishes when you’re dead tired and just want to relax.
• It’s inconvenient to hold your tongue and really listen to your friend tell of ways you recently hurt her.
• It’s inconvenient to take the time in the early morning to pray for your family members when the day’s demands are screaming for your attention.
• It’s inconvenient to interrupt the flow of your conversation to include the one on the edge of the circle.
• It’s inconvenient to respond in a timely way to an email from a member of your church, knowing it will likely precipitate hours of hard conversation.

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