You think it’s a hot take to not want to get married? Satan shouts in triumph. As Genesis 3:15 says, “I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel.” We all know this is talking about Jesus, but it’s not only talking about Him. This is God’s plan for womanhood.

Marriage should be a top priority, something you’re always working toward. I don’t mean all day, every day. I do mean that, until you are, it should be a guiding principle for how you live your life. If you are an adult or close, live as if marriage is the goal in the next couple of years. Work toward it. Be ready.

My family was watching an old episode of the show “Dog Whisperer” from some 20 years ago the other night. The hero of the show, Cesar Millan, was getting the owner of the disobedient dog to explain her relationship with her pet. When Cesar had heard enough and started critiquing her behavior, the lady only nodded her head in support and explained that she did, indeed, do those things. But, she didn’t. She was doing the opposite. And, her behavior was getting the expected outcome. An unruly dog. How did she convince herself her behavior was 180 degrees from where it really was?

I have seen young ladies who want to get married cut their hair short (1 Corinthians 11:14-15), dress provocatively (Proverbs 7:10), go to clubs (Proverbs 7:11-12), get tattoos and nose piercings (1 Peter 3:3), put stickers all over their vehicle, their laptop, and their water bottle, and wonder where all the good men have gone. Desperate to be loved, they do everything that gets them attention.

Car wrecks also get attention.

I have seen young men who want to get married walk around with bird chests and pencil necks, or spare tires and double chins (Proverbs 20:29), hunched inward with all the confidence of a mouse. Not a dollar to their name, they take a cheap shortcut to success and family through an obsession with video games and OnlyFans girls. Desperate for a sense of peace through conquest, they have neither.

Men and women, this is not the way. This is not what you were created for. It’s a hollowed-out version Satan uses to deceive. And he is desperate to blow up the family, the created order, the awesome power and terrible beauty of a godly marriage, two people becoming one, producing godly offspring, because that is how he loses (Genesis 3:15).

Though he promises much, he cannot deliver. The way Satan proffers is sinful, and sin can only lead you to one end, for the wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23). It is utterly powerless to lead you anywhere else.

But, Western Women

(Genesis 3:12-13) Men, stop blaming the degradation of America and the state of modern women on your failures, as if some feminist harpy you’ve never met is the direct cause of your circumstances. Proverbs 21:9 says, “It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife,” and Proverbs 21:19 says, “It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.” These are not excuses to go unmarried. These are warnings to young men to avoid such a woman. If you have trouble spotting these women from a mile off, before marriage, ask an older man with wisdom.

Women are exactly what we need to take America back. Out of everything God created, it is not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). You don’t need all the women out there, only one. Find your wife (Proverbs 18:22) and be fruitful (Proverbs 5:15) with her (Genesis 1:28).

Women, stop fighting your nature. When I see a “boss babe” in a high-paying career, with a husband, children, and a look on her face that says, “I’m doing it all,” I know she’s stressed up to her eyeballs. Her marriage is going downhill, her children miss her, and let’s be honest, she’s not irreplaceable at work, though she is at home. I often think of an old Greek fable about a crab and his mother. The mother crab tells her son to walk straight, but the son is unable and so asks his mother to show him how. The mother, after an attempt, is unable to either. Though perhaps not the intended lesson, it often comes to mind because the mother crab was created precisely to walk sideways, or left and right, not forward and backward. But she resented her very essence and wanted to be something else.

War! War! War!

Look around. We’re at war. There’s no shortage of people saying, ‘Peace, peace,’ when there is no peace (Jeremiah 6:14), but as it burns down around us, it’s past time to wake up.

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