Sometimes, all it takes is one good question to start a meaningful, God-honoring conversation. Time together can be so much more fruitful with just a little bit of forethought.

We’ve got to move dialogue with believers beyond a superficial level if we are going to really know and encourage one another. But where do we even start?

Here are seven questions you might ask. They might be useful in a variety of settings, such as when you have someone (or a family) over for supper, when spending time at the park, when you’re on a long car ride together, or during a fellowship meal with your church.

1. When did you become a follower of Jesus?

This question has a way of bringing a needed sobriety and kingdom focus to the time together that might otherwise have been marked by shallowness. Though all believers listening in will enjoy hearing about God’s saving grace, this is especially strategic for any lost people (or those seeking assurance of salvation) in the gathering to hear. I have typically asked this question when hosting believers in my home for a meal not only because it’s a delightful subject, but because I have wanted my lost children to hear these testimonies of God’s love.

2. What was your family life like growing up?

The answer might be an inspiring story about God-honoring parents and faithfulness to the local church. Or, the person’s answer might reveal past darkness and sadness that only God could overcome. You’ll probably even learn something about the person’s past that helps you to understand some of his or her weaknesses or strengths in the present.

3. How did you meet each other?

This question is usually geared toward a husband and wife. You might also ask about the day they became engaged. The dialogue that results from this question typically includes some laughter, but I’ve seen it lead to serious reflections about marriage — even current difficulties the couple is having.

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