“This marriage thing is hard.We know everything about each other, can anticipate each other’s next sentence, and not only know exactly where the dirty socks will be thrown but when. We repeat the same fights, stick to the same guns, rebut with the same rebuttals, face the same bedheads in the morning. If monogamy equals monotonous (and, let’s be real, that happens), why would we hitch ourselves to someone’s star for the entirety of our days?”

According to the Pew Research Center, millennials increasingly think society is just fine without marriage, and it’s easy to see why they do.

As I write, Ian and I are finishing up a trip to Washington state in celebration of our 25th wedding anniversary. We’ve met many people these last 10 days, and when they discover why we’re here, they quickly congratulate us. But what feels more appropriate is, “Whew! You made it!” Cue the fist bumps.

Because you’re right, mills. This marriage thing is hard.We know everything about each other, can anticipate each other’s next sentence, and not only know exactly where the dirty socks will be thrown but when. We repeat the same fights, stick to the same guns, rebut with the same rebuttals, face the same bedheads in the morning. If monogamy equals monotonous (and, let’s be real, that happens), why oh why would we hitch ourselves to someone’s star for the entirety of our days?

Read More