Narcissistic people rarely have deep friendships and usually don’t really desire them. They have fans but not friends. They have the admiration of others but not intimacy. They want to surround themselves with those who will approve and affirm them and assure them that they are okay but not with true friends who will lovingly wound them with the truth. They don’t typically give in relationships; they tend to take. Narcissists tend to use others to build up themselves but do not invest or give in relationships.