Confronting a church member. “She was bitter and gossiped all the time. No one else had the courage to confront her, so I had to do the dirty work. It was not a pretty situation, and I’m still suffering from the confrontation today.”
In a recent post, I shared the results of an informal Twitter poll that pointed out the greatest sources of discouragement of pastors and staff. In this post, I share the challenges of difficult ministry situations. Specifically I asked: “What are some of the most difficult situations you have had in pastoral ministry?”
This time, I am simply reporting anecdotal information in my conversations with pastors. Eight consistent themes have arisen.
- Moral failure of a church staff member.
- Funeral of a child or teenager.
- Declining financial situation in the church.
- Dismissing a friend on church staff.
- Funeral of an unbeliever.
- Confronting a church member.
- Moral failure of a key lay leader.
- Bringing order to a contentious church business meeting.